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Readers' Answers to Ann's Choice of marrying- November 2003

MESSAGE FROM READERS OF ANN?STORY

NOVEMBER 2003

From: Vou

To: Kao-Ly

Subject: do what you want to do

Date: Mon, 27 Oct 2003 17:52:34 ?0600

Well, I personally think that Ann should do what her heart desirers. I am a Hmong male and I too feel what she is going through. We are being more and more Americanized as each day passes by. I fear that our Hmong culture will die as we are here in America. Since we are here in America, I believe that international relationship should not be judged. Living in Wisconsin I had many international relationship with other ethnic groups; Blacks, Asians, Latin, and Whites. ?The only path you can exit on is the path that exit on you.? Only you can choose the path that you walk on, and not the others. Go for what your eyes dream of. Don?t be blind cause this would is yours to view. VYC

Date: Fri, 12 Sep 2003 14:50:50 +1000 (EST)

From: "Mai

Subject: Re: Ann Story

To: Kao-Ly

Hey there Kao Ly,

What an amazing story, its very true, I believe this Ann character totally represents many Hmong women these days. Ann is a strong character, she has been from the beginning and so I wish to see her be stronger in the end.

I think you should make her wait, the last Hmong guy that she met isn't the last guy in the world, she will not marry someone who is totally different from her, I mean sometimes relationships like this will work out but only one in a million and also it is not the greatest, to be honest if she does marry him it will only result in conflict after marriage and will make Ann's life even more miserable, two people from different worlds just don't go together. I don't want to see Ann return to the old customs, I believe she can do better. It's about time she teaches her parents and good old Hmong society that she can be strong alone without following their advice.

She shouldn't pay attention to what society has to say about her, one day the right guy will come because we know Ann is a good women and one day you never know he could as well be Hmong that will be a miracle and will make everyone happy, but if he isn't, sorry, does it really matter? Its only the love that counts, after all it's her life she has to live with, not her parents and not anyone else, but make sure that the guy she is going to marry really really love her, not just for her degree or money. And if no one comes to her then there are only two words for that "SO WHat???" (F) It do you really have to get married to be happy? I keep telling people sometimes its better to be alone than to live with someone who doesn't love you or someone who is not committed or someone who is only using you!! Come on girls wake up. Sorry for my tone again its just that I get really angry when I find out that many women out there are not strong enough to stand up for themselves it hurts me all the time.

I do hope you take my email into account and whatever you choose for your ending hope its a good one. Thank You for giving me this opportunity to share my opinion with you, Take Care.

Mai

From: Jenny

To: Kao-Ly

Subject: I am very touched with the story about Ann

Date: Wed, 30 Apr 2003 11:56:28 -0700

Hi my name is Jenny ().

I am 17 years old and while looking trough to wedding and traditions for a project I came upon your web thinking that it was something that was related to weddings. So yes I printed the web page of Ann's life I read it and was so touched by her life. It has touched me so much. I am not married, no children of my own, looking at my education is all that I look at as of now. Ann's journey has made me realize a lot of thing. I never tough that she can look at life so beautiful of getting into a relation ship or a man like that.

I just want to thank you for putting this in/on this web. Thank You!!

Jenny

Date: Fri, 13 Dec 2002 14:49:53 -0600

To: Kao-Ly

From: William

Subject: Ending of Ann's Story

To my knowledge, there are many educated single Hmong men available now. If she can apply her counseling skills in the real world, she can find a suitable man. Social class and education level does matter in this modern society. As adult and professional, we can provide resources for people who are in the situation in this story. I have a person who is very closed to me who is 32, and highly educated with a good paying job. It is hard to find him a match person, but luckily he found one last summer. They married and are happy now.