| What a heart-wrenching situation. In my opinion, Ann, should follow her instincts and not get married to fulfill her families desires. It is difficult being caught between 2 cultures, like walking on a bamboo fence. I am first generation Chinese American and my father who recently passed away, died at 100 yrs old. So I grew up in a very traditional household with all of the expectations that accompany that and while living in and being influenced by American culture. |
| Jeannie wrote: |
| IMO (in my opinion), Ann will have to find her own path. True happiness is not dependent upon others.; It will come from Ann's heart. In Ann's heart she know what;her dreams are. If she makes decisions based upon fulfilling other's expectations, she will become very unhappy and bitter about her life.How will she be able to make/create a happy family if she is not happy herself? |
| Just my opinion,I would like to know how this turns out for Ann. |
| From:Kao-Ly Yang |
| To Jeannie |
| Sent: Tuesday, April 15, 2003 10:37 AM |
| Subject: Re: The Wedding |
| Thank you Jeannie for your answer. I am touched by your email and interest on this story. I am writing the end now and will post it in my website. |
| I am wondering if you would allow me to add your message in the answer letter from people: I would like to create link of this story to all the messages that I got from people. In fact, I have written this story because many people felt so unfairly married and this story has a purpose; it is to educate my young Hmong sisters to better think about choice. |
| Thanks |
| KaoLy |
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